Qualities in a wife…
After reading Why Am I Not Married? over at Visionary Daughters, I was convicted in one of their paragraphs on what I really thought a husband would want in a wife and if I was preparing to be those things. I sat down and honestly contemplated the virtues I would want to be, whether I have them or not, and these are what I came up with.
- She must be a maturing Christian, showing the fruit of the Spirit.
- She should be committed to family; present and future.
- Her character should be real and not falsely implied.
- She should be able to run a house without too much difficulty.
- A follower of the Scriptures, not only reading but acting out their commands.
- Modesty. Not only of the body but of the mind.
- Willingness to change lifestyles for the plan God has for her life.
- Ability to be hospitable. A warm and welcoming personality as well as home.
- She must have a gentle spirit.
- A willing and sacrificial heart.
#4 is still in the process but I am pushing through my dislike for cooking in order to serve my family more.
#7 and # 10 are in the same boat of being willing to follow the Lord and doing what He commands without any other element thrown into the picture. I am a little hesitant to change my life, but I believe that if I was called by the Lord to leave the life I know, that I would do so without grumbling. I may be a little unsure at first, but I don’t want to grumble.
#8…oh boy! I don’t like to talk a whole bunch in public conversations. However, I don’t go out of my way to be silent. I may pipe in every now and then or talk with someone who needs talking with, but I try not to be unpleasant under any circumstance.
There’s my convictions and confessions about how I fail at them (for all to see *gasp*), but I have the best aid on my side; God’s grace and prayer.
By: ThePainter | Biblical Living, My Soapbox
Thank you for your honesty dear! I too was very convicted by the Botkin’s article. Whew! I too have been pondering over my own goals and how they do not match up with what I am wanting for a husband someday if God should choose to bless me with one. The balance is more on my expectations for him and less on myself, I must say.
It really struck me that the young men don’t seem to think that all these young ladies out there are real about themselves and ready to be married. 
Wow. My own fault is that I spend too much time on #4 and not enough on some of the other ones…ouch. 
Such as #’s 2, 7, 9, 10. *sigh* But, how thankful I am that God still is able to work in me (and you) and help us to change these things and work on them. 
I thank you for sharing your thoughts on this and for sharing your little list with us. That is really an excellent list of qualities and I agree with you on them.
Blessings!
~Miss Rachel~
This is an excellent list! I think I’ll copy this out for me to look at from time to time. I’ve also heard that if you have a list of “qualifications” for your husband, you should have one twice as ling for yourself. Excellent, dear!
-Breezy
Wow - what a great list! Thank you for posting it.